Caring for Our Aging Parents and Ourselves

A recent article in the New York Times blog talks about long-distance, low-maintenance arrangements between children and aging parents. It is quite common for someone to live in New York, for example, and worry about their parents who are retired and living in Florida. Here is a link to the article and my comments below.

Time for a reality check: The sheer numbers are enough to make all of us anxious--tens of millions, and growing, aging parents and aging Boomers are putting tremendous strain on families and society, and we have only just begun to try to cope with this Tsunami of sorts. And don't look for government to step in with any meaningful solutions--family and friends will, like it or not, be called on to step up and shoulder most of the responsibility.

Starting now and for the next 20 years or so all of us will be put to the test, as your comments have revealed. Do you have what it takes to be an effective caregiver? You'll soul-search about how much or how little you care for your parents. How's your judgment? Will it be clouded by irrational/emotional decisions? Do you have the time, the money and support of family and friends? Do you have the good sense to consult an attorney or expert on aging to prevent panic and chaos? Unfortunately, many problems arise over money and in-fighting among siblings. Issues tend to be about feeling burdened or taken advantage of when it comes to caring for parents. Families squabble over inheritance; how much money mom or dad will go through before they die.

The time to be proactive is now. The aging train will be making many stops. Be prepared. Especially in these tumultuous times, we must keep our sanity.

Don't know where to start? Contact us for a free, no obligation consultation to see if we can help improve the quality of life for your parents and make you rest easier.